In doing this process it is advisable to find a safe comfortable place where you can talk out aloud without concern of being overheard or disturbed. The process can be done over a period of ocasions or it can be done in one sitting, in which case it can take a number of hours - be warned!

After settling yourself, take a few deep breaths and close your eyes, get into a relaxed and reflective state. Then ask to be presented, in visual form, the people that you hold resentment towards. Only one person at a time will appear and the ones with the most amount of issues to be resolved will turn up first almost - invariably one of the parents is then usually followed by the other one. They may not be alive.

When there is a picture of a person, or if no picture of a person just a sense of who it is, visualise a cord or tube going from that person's navel and connecting with a cord that emanates from your navel. Tie them together and then say out loud "the resentment I hold against you for ...." then list everything that you feel resentful or bitter towards that person for.

When you have completed everything, say "(name) the resentment I hold against you I now release. I love you and I forgive you". At the point of saying "I forgive you" physically make a pair of scissors with your fingers and cut through that imaginary cord connecting you and the person.

This whole process is then repeated another two times and while listing the resentments it is okay to repeat previous ones you have mentioned.

When having completed these additional two, you then reverse the process. Which is done by again tying the cords with the person and this time you commence by saying "(name) the resentment that you feel against me for...." - list the things that you feel that the person feels resentful against you and then on completion say "(name) all these things that you hold resentment against me for I now forgive you for. I love you, I release you" and cut the cord. As before, do this another two times from the other person's perspective.

You are then ready to embark upon resolving issues with the next person, so at this point ask to be presented with the next person you hold resentment for. Keep going until no one is left.

This meditation really works! Thanks to Annie Meredith of Australian Bush Flower Essences who shared it with our group at the Level 2 workshop in Sydney September 2004.